The Mom Life: Second {Day 21}

Dom wants to be first at everything. Well everything except brushing his teeth. He is always quite the gentleman when it comes to allowing his baby sister to go first on this routine part of their day.

There was a time when he was very determined to be ‘first’ at everything. I saw the car first. I want to go through the door first. I want to be the line leader and go first.

I was the same way. Everything was all about me. A lot is still about me.

But as a friend once articulated so beautifully. “Having children helps us realize just how selfish we are”.

Being a mommy almost translates into: “I am second”. From the time that sweet little baby is conceived, even your body’s first priority is no longer you. No, it becomes second to growing your baby. And it continues on through childbirth where often the baby is coming on his timeline. And the second place status continues through middle of the night feeds, diaper changes, rocking and walking the halls with the desire to soothe. Long hot showers becoming a luxury and not a daily staple.

Sure the mommy years with littles eventually pass but that second place status never truly disappears as your children become your world, new cars are no longer on your wish list but rather soccer uniforms and new bicycles and dolls houses and musical instruments take their place as things that makes you smile. And in those moments you know that “second place never felt better”.

This post is part of a 31 day movement. You can learn more about it here but the gist of it is that I take 5 minutes to write on a one word prompt that is provided following a theme that I have chosen. My theme is The Mom Life. So every post will center around my life and experiences as a mom and what comes to mind when I think about the prompt given. Hope you enjoy following my writing journey as much as I will love crafting the words. 
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Patty Parker

My name is Patty Parker. I write about finding beauty in the every day.

3 thoughts on “The Mom Life: Second {Day 21}

  1. Patty, this is so right on! I was just saying something similar to this to David last night about not always feeling put together myself like I was before kids. The amount of time it takes for those things isn’t something I usually have in plenty. But you know what, it’s alright. This whole mom gig is so much better than the cutest outfits and best placed hair. Sure, I still check the mirror before walking out the door and I don’t leave in my PJs but my time for getting ready to go somewhere is spent prepping kids, snacks, bags, etc. Anyway, I’m probably rambling but I love the second place and had a moment to type here on your cute, new blog layout. Which I’ve been meaning to tell you is awesome for some time but again….time gets away from me. 🙂 Thanks for sharing!

    1. Thanks Emily! “This whole mom gig is so much better than the cutest outfits and best placed hair.” Love this and so agree!

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