Becoming One Part I

This becoming one thing is definitely a journey. Because we have committed this first year to making our marriage our ministry I decided that I would study what the word of God has to say about marriage and the roles we play as husband and wife. It didn’t take long for me to figure out that there are some areas where I have A WHOLE LOT to learn. Being the strong Type A personality that Marshall has tagged me as having (I wonder why?), I picked up right away on the word submission and that it is all over the directions given to wives.

Ephesians 5:22 says,” Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.” Verse 24 goes a little further by saying, “Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything”.

Ouch! EVERYTHING? Having worked my entire adult life and been in many a leadership position, I find this very difficult. Wiki defines submission as the act of yielding to some power or authority. Marshall is my authority; the spiritual head and leader of our household. I was watching our wedding video and listening to the commitments we made in earnest to each other. Double ouch!

Here’s a little excerpt:

Patty, Marshall is your chosen leader. To marry him, you must be willing to accept his leadership. This is not easy in a day when many women claim their liberation. You are, today, giving up many privileges that you held as a single woman. And, even as you have no right to go against the Word of God, because I know you claim Jesus as your Lord and Savior, you have no right to disobey your husband. For under the divine rules of marriage, as he submits himself to God, and seeks God’s guidance for your marriage, then he is your final word.

Learning to submit to Marshall isn’t hard because he’s leading us the wrong way. He’s seeking God and the direction we’re headed is a pretty cool one. It’s just that act of dying to self… the thought that “Wait a minute; someone else is making decisions that affect me.” Of course I have input and we make our decisions as a couple. All the same, my husband has the final word.

Jesus was God and yet he submitted to his father’s plan for the better good of all humanity. Aren’t we all glad he didn’t get his feathers ruffled and say, “Wait a minute! I don’t want to do this!” When I think about it in this way, I realize that I need to do the same.

Head knowledge? Check. I think it’s in my heart. Now if my actions could just follow along!


I thank you for the amazing man you’ve given me. Day by day I fall more and more in love with him. Thank you for exceeding the longings of my heart. I desire to honor my husband, but unfortunately my flesh gets in the way quite a bit. I pray that you would help me to submit to him at all times and show my love for him through my surrender to his leadership.

Embracing the Journey,


Our Wedding Day
Our Wedding Day