Just over a week ago my life was changed yet again with the arrival of our third child Devin Timothy Parker. As with our first two children, Devin has a unique birth story all his own filled with twists and turns, beautiful surprises, disappointments and redeeming moments.
Although it was a typical pregnancy filled with morning sickness, heartburn, tired eyes and emotions, with two littles already underfoot, I feel like it was my hardest one. However, with the help of a wonderful supportive husband and the loving grace of our two beautiful children, we made it through. So without further ado, here is part one of the tale of sweet Devin’s arrival into the world on January 7th, of this year.
At 36 weeks we found out our little fella was not in a good position. Instead of getting settled into a head down position in preparation for birth, our little fella was sideways! A few pep talks to the Dev, frequent visits to the chiropractor, and lots of prayer being offered up from ourselves, friends and family helped passed the time until our 38 week ultrasound.Our doctor had shared with us the possibility of doing a procedure called an external cephalic version. With this procedure she would manually move the baby from the outside into the correct position. With only a 50% success rate and lots of risks involved if something were to go wrong, my doctor had very specific prerequisites for doing a ‘version’:
- An optimal position- head tucked in, legs crossed
- enough amniotic fluid
- appropriate positioning of cord and placenta
Prior to this decision-making ultrasound, I had everyone praying! Even Dom had been praying that Devin would do a ‘headstand’. My prayer had been that Devin would move his position or that it would be abundantly clear that having a baby vaginally was just not in God’s plan for his delivery.
The time for the ultrasound came revealing a new position but not what we were hoping for:
- Position- frank breech (head up, bottom down, feet straight up near his face).
- Nuchal cord- (the cord was wrapped around his neck)
- Anterior placenta (instead of the placenta being under him which is more common, the placenta was on top)
- lots of amniotic fluid
I knew that God had answered my prayers and the prayers of others when I heard the results of the ultrasound. With a frank position which is one of the more rigid positions to maneuver, there was strike one. And although a nuchal cord is common (Charlee delivered with the cord wrapped around her neck), my doctor did not feel that it was safe to try the version in the event that my precariously placed placenta were to pull away from the walls of my uterus opening doors for all sorts mayhem that would cause harm to the baby and/or myself. Strike two and three.
So there it was: the answer I had prayed for. I didn’t like it but it was as I had asked abundantly clear that moving this baby from his position was not safe. Heartbroken, but trusting God, we scheduled the caesarian section for the following Wednesday.
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Each year many people pick a theme or word to focus on during that year. Sometimes I have participated, others I’ve honestly had no interest in the idea. This year was one of those where I really did not have the time or desire to choose a word. Ironically, I believe God chose it for me and placed it in front of me through the circumstances of this birth.
That word is: TRUST
You can read a little more about this in an earlier post I wrote here when there was still ‘time’ for Devin to change his position.